Whether as psychologically damaging as parental alienation, igniting the “Who got you better Hanukkah presents?” competition , informing an innocent child your fresh lover or stepparent will be replacing their former Mr. or Mrs. Clause, inflexibility with letting your kids still experience Traditions with your ex-in laws, or sneakily having Santa come down your chimney 1st before your ex’s custody agreement Holiday, us adults know when our behaviors are more Grinch & coal worthy. Your anger is yours, not to be vented to torn, mini ears on the “Over the River & Through the Woods” sleigh ride to your ex’s abode…
If you truly care about the “best interest of (your) child”, do you really wish them possible lifelong drama with their own flesh & blood? Unresolved hurts with their Mother or Father, the core of their growing identity?
Skip buying the extra materialistic gift for your child. Buy yourself a therapist instead, vs. using your child as one. Take accountability for your role in the divorce. As Uncle Eddie said in Christmas Vacation: “It’s the Gift that KEEPS on Giving”…
Like a HOLIDAY SURVIVAL Divorce Support Group! Validation & camaraderie by adults will help infuse the Peace & JOY your kids need this Season from YOU!
Being Compassionate towards an ex is usually no easy, Holly Jolly endeavor! Despite any “darkness” directed at you, put yourself in their family of origin & wounds. Approach them with more openness. If it feels right, forgive them quietly if not safe to tell them
Just call me for a SPECIALIST THERAPIST REFERRAL! Co-parenting Professionals can change heart wrenching divorce dynamics. If your kindest attempts fail, make sure your kid(s) are protected & insist on individual Counseling for them.
Despite understandable frustration, KEEP BEing the “LIGHT” to drive out toxicity & “darkness”. Take the High Road, Friend. Little eyes are watching you, Role Model. HAPPY Hanukkah. MERRY Christmas. And A TRULY NEW Year to all that!